Where I work isn’t known for being particularly warm and fuzzy. It is by no mean as bad as the last place I worked, and everyone is very lovely but everyone is so over-worked there is very little conversation (in fact whole days have gone past when I haven’t spoken to anyone) and there is no out of hours socialising. We don’t do Christmas cards, we don’t do going out for a Christmas party, we don’t do anything.
There have been rare occasions where I have tried (with limited success) to drag some life into the office. But there is only some many times you can try to light a fire and have it peed on before you just except that things won’t change, work will not be fun, and you just suck it up and pray for the hours to pass so that your life can begin.
However, this time someone else has taken an initiative and as someone has a big birthday coming up a card has been passed round the office for us all to sign. (I think we should go one better and all club in for some flowers but as I am alone in that thinking it’s not going to happen!) I digress.
So the card was put on my desk and I had a matter of moments to write my birthday message. I won’t just write ‘Happy Birthday’ I think it lacks originality and shows no really thought or meaning so I always like to put my own comment and so..on this ladys 50th birthday card…don’t worry you don’t look a day over 49!
I thought it was funny, I wrote it in jest and the I signed my name, put a kiss and handed the card back……..and totally freaked out! What have I done?? What if she isn’t fine with turning 50 and my card brings on floods of tears rather than the well-meaning chuckle I have intended. It’s gone there, there is nothing I can do to amend it or make it better.
Is this a harmless, well-meant comment or do you think I need to start job hunting??